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Question: How do we deal with financial troubles and the lifestyle?
Dear Lounge Advice, We have been in the lifestyle for about a little over a year now and have had very enjoyable experiences. The premis - I was recently layed off and we have had to seriously cut back on all extra curricular activities. Which I think only makes sense. The problem - The couples whose company we have been enjoying have been persistantly expecting us to party with them, We just can't afford it and do not want to be a tagalong or worse yet financially embarrassed. They keep persisting and say they understand and say that the money doesn't matter. Well, It does to us. We enjoy these people very much, and hate to loose them. But this added pressure is almost to frustrating under our circumstances. I think, I already know what you are going to say. I suppose I am more interested in your opinion. Are we being selfish in our attempt to hunker down for or expected financial crisis by cutting off our friends?
First of all...and most importantly... we are sorry to hear that you are facing some tough times financially right now. We have definately been there.. and it sucks. Hopefully it will be a short time and you will be laughing about this soon.
We do not however see the connection between your friendships with lifestyle people and your financial situation. Do you mean that you are concerned about affording going out to the lifestyle clubs?
What about arranging some activities that do not require a great deal of money. How about asking a couple or a few of them to come to your house.
Look... what we have found more than anything else is that the folks we have met in the lifestyle are more understanding... more willing to be compassionate... and more willing to help than any others we have met.
Everyone can relate to tough times... with the exception of the fortunate few... we all know what its like... and we can all relate. Life goes on. You have no need to cut out your lifestyle friends... you just need to be creative and find ways in which you can do lifestyle activities without spending money.
Having sex shouldnt cost anything. Being friends shouldnt cost anything. The two best benefits of being in the lifestyle are free !!!!
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