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Question: Play Bi Play

Dear Lounge Advice,

I have recently broken up with my playmate of two and a half years. We met shortly after we were both widowed. We each lost spouses to cancer. We both have young boys (5. 6. & 8 yrs old.) Our parenting styles have become too disparate to ignore anymore. She as the first person I met after my wife died. I am a bi male and I want to move on. How do I meet new bi women who will accept and play with a bi male?

Any insight will be extremely helpful.




Dear (Anonymous),

Hi there

First, let me say that I am sorry for the break-up...even when they are necessary, it does not make it any easier to deal with the loss.

Second, my recommendation would be to NOT focus on the fact that you are a "bi male," but rather a newly single male, who is part of the LS, and is open-minded when it comes to partners. The fact that you are "bi" allows you to initially explore new playmates with women and/or men. After some "getting to know" time has occurred, which is undoubtedly when the discussion of wants/likes/desires will come up, this is the time to make determinations and decisions about whether you are a "fit" or not. Remember, oftentimes when we go out "looking" for something specific it is difficult to find, yet, when you least expect it, everything you have ever wanted practically falls in your lap (usually ;).

The beautiful thing about the LS is that most people are very open-minded, and nonjudgmental, therefore, allowing for all different shapes, sizes, likes and desires.

I suggest that you start emailing and reaching out to playmates that interest you, be open and honest ALWAYS, this will allow you to have intact integrity, and go have some CRAZY FUN! Good Luck and Stay Sexy
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