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Question: Can you help us with some
Dear Lounge Advice,
We have two questions about swing clubs. We have attended them many times and with the exception of once, we always only played by ourselves. We had never played in the group room and found the thought of it very erotic so we decided to try it. We understand that no means no, but here are two questions that we do not know the answer to. In the group room environment, my wife does not want any interaction with others - even touching -I respect that. If we were beside another couple and the female touched me and I responded back by fondling her - would it be a fair assumption that her partner (the other male) would assume it was ok to touch my wife?
The second question is: Again if we were beside another couple and my wife, being bisexual, was comfortable with having bi interaction with the female beside her - does that mean the male partners would assume they could join in in the touching etc?
Thanks for your input!
Unless there is some other verbal communication between you.... if someone touches you and you respond positively... ie you return the touch... then you can assume that their partner would make the assumption that it is ok to touch your wife as well.
If that does happen to you.. what you can do is just lean over to them and just tell them that your wife is not comfortable yet with anyone touching her.
Also... is she ok with you touching the other woman? Make sure the real answer to that is yes.. and even so... you are still gonna have to keep an eye on her or make a non-verbal cue (we have a "pinch" that does the trick) where she can give you a signal that she wants you back to her.
As far as your other question... again you can communicate verbally with the make while the women are playing... that you are just interested in the girls playing.
Everyone is different.. you will find some people that will just make assumptions and move forward until someone says no.. or stops them...
In our case... we are very sensative to everyones limitations... so we usually ask ahead of time what they are...
We are not saying that one way is better than the other.. just pointing out that all people are different... we are surprised at some of the assumptions that some people make.. usually the guys.... so its best to just get everything straight ahead of time so no one is dissappointed and no one feels lead on either.
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