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Question: My hubby likes to watch me with other men.. but its not enjoyable for me.. what should I do?

Dear Lounge Advice,
We have been in the lifestyle for almost three years now. We started very slowly with girl/girl and then moved to soft swap and now occasionally we have full swapped. My problem is, I really do not enjoy having interaction with other men. I have tried it and just find it does nothing for me. I enjoy threesomes with another woman and my husband, and I even enjoy watching him with another woman - and encourage it. The problem is that my husband does enjoy watching another man with me (with a couple or MFM) - he says it is the same as me enjoying watching him with another woman. I have told him it is not the same because he enjoys the interaction with the other woman where I do not enjoy the interaction with the other man. Any suggestions???



Dear (Anonymous),

Do NOT do anything you do not enjoy. Just don't do it. You have to respect each others desires, but if any of you are NOT having enjoyment from it... DONT DO IT !!!

This is all about you having fun as a couple..if either of you are not enjoying yourselves.. .why continue.. it doesn't make any sense.

You need to communicate directly with him and explain that it is not fun for you to be with other men... but that you are willing to be with him and other women. What man can really say no to that?

Of course this will limit your pool of people to play with.. but if that isnt a problem... then the solution is easy !

Do not lose site of what this is all about !
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