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Question: Im dealing with personal issues now.. should I take a break from the Lifestyle?

Dear Lounge Advice,

I have a lot of personal issues to work through. I still want to play and meet people in the lifestyle though. I'm a single bi-curious female and enjoy the attention. I also feel like it's important at this time of self-discovery and healing that I explore every facet of my life.
So, can I still play? Or am I like couples in need of counseling - I should wait and come back into the lifestyle when I'm "better"?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

It is so hard right now for us to answer this without really understanding what your "personal issues" are.. and how they relate to the Lifestyle....

Whether to take part or not is such a personal decision for you to make alone.. and you do not need our advice.. or anyone elses in terms of that choice.

The only significant question you need to ask yourself is... Will those personal issues have ANY effect at all on others whom you will be engaging with?

If the answer is YES.. then you should avoid involvement until you have it sorted out.

The last thing ANYONE needs is to become entwined in the personal issues of others. Any drama at all takes a lot of the fun out of it for others.

We know that in times of personal issues there is a tendency to reach out for others to comfort yourself.. be it emotionally and sexually.. in that case.. you are effectively using the lifestyle and its participants to form a band aid.

Even though your thoughts are centered on yourself and your issues now... don't allow youreself to drag others into them... In the end.. it will be counter-productive.

We would suggest that you seek counseling if you are not already doing so.

Good luck !!
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