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Question: We want to develop relationships, not just a quick romp.
Dear Lounge Advice,
Just a quick question... there seems to be alot of people in this lifestyle that are interested in only posting and receiving pictures.
We are fairly new to this lifestyle and seem to have trouble getting people to meet for real.We are not hard on the eyes,are laid back and fun to be around.We belong to other sites and talk with other members via e-mail then when we try to set up a meet, nothing. We have only met one other couple that we eventually did hook up with.
Maybe it is because we are looking for long term friendships and most seem to want only a quick romp,that is not us.
Any help or suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks,
Pam and Terry
We have found that the Internet is great as a new communications and information tool...but have not found it a great way to actually meet a lot of real people. That is why when we meet people online... we tell them to meet us at one of the local clubs... that way if they are not real... or don’t show up.... then the night is not a total loss.
Now that we have found a new home here on the Lifestyle Lounge... a lot of those problems have been solved. Just last weekend we met 4 couples from the Lifestyle Lounge who were visiting South Florida. The 100% real seal really works!!
The other thing is that we have found it hard to make determinations on who we want to “hook-up” with just from sending pictures and email correspondences. For us its all about attraction and chemistry…in the past we have been both pleasantly surprised and unpleasantly shocked when we finally meet the real people compared to the pictures they had sent us... And it’s really hard to judge chemistry based on emails alone.
We don’t think your problem is because of your desire to make long-term friendships rather than a quick romp. There doesn’t have to be a decision between being long-term friendships and a quick romp. We have long-term friendships now with people we have never “romped.” And sometimes we have had a romp and then became long-term friends. Do you feel you have to become long-term friends before you romp? Now that you brought it up… what exactly are you referring to with “romp.” Are you referring to soft romp or full romp? Or is it just the speed of the romp that bothers you? It’s the holiday season and we are digressing...
Sorry we could not resist... here is our real advice..
Be patient... and try to put more information in your profile. There are many people who put a lot of emphasis on the contents of the profiles... And your online profile is sometimes your “first impression.” If friendship is important to you... Indicate it right there on your profile... and more people with that inclination might gravitate to you.
And we guaranty you one thing... Not everyone in the lifestyle is looking for a quick romp!!!
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