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Question: Why can't I just give up the controlling way I am and make it easy and fun??

Dear Lounge Advice,
My husband wants to watch me have sex with other people. Although my parents were into the "swinging" lifestyle, I still think it's weird but I'm not against getting freaky every once and a while. I said, "We'll join LL and fulfill your request".
I'm a control freak that's trying to work on being submissive to this particular request. I have set sooooo many rules it's taking the "fun" out of it for my husband. I'm ruining it before it's even really getting started. I find myself pointing my finger saying "It's my way or no way" but jeeeez, what's my "friggin problem"? Why can't I just give up the controlling way I am and make it easy and fun??



Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Even though you have agreed to fulfill this fantasy that does not mean you need to make it happen immediately.
Take your time and wait for a situation or partner that is agreeable and comfortable for you both.

All too often in the lifestyle one of the members of a couple pressures the other too much to do something.
Our advice to you both is to be patient and wait for the right opportunity to com along.



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