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Question: Please advise on what we can do to enhance our swinging experience.
Dear Lounge Advice,
We are a young, married cpl that has been in the lifestyle for about 3 years. It seems that lately, we haven't had the excitement that we once had before. We usually attend a local swinger club (Off-Premise) at least once a month and try to meet couples through various sites such as LL. We have noticed a decline on the number of couples that we have been attracted to. Instead of feeling that excitement of playing with another cpl, we find ourselves going through the motions. We are thinking about venturing out to other cities to check the swinging population and see if we get "Lucky". Maybe we are too picky and have too many expectations. We want to play but haven't been able to find that perfect cpl. Over all we have been with 7 cpls in the last 3 years. Please advise on what we can do to enhance our swinging experience.
It sounds like you are two are on the right track already.
If you are not finding what you are looking for at your local venues then a change of scene sounds like a great plan.
You might also want to consider throwing your own "private" invite only event for couples or members that you have interest in or desire for.
If you can afford to travel easily it might be worth taking a few trips to other locations from time to time just for a change of scene and people.
There are peaks and valleys in all walks of life...even the lifestyle.... so don't let a dry spell get you down.
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