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   Do you think swinging is on the decline?  

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12/18/2014 11:27
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Date Posted: 12/18/2014 11:27
  
That divided pie that OHYEA referenced has been a killer of this community. It created avenues for clubs and promoters to fight it out for people...and sites too, it isn't like LL hasn't been stabbed in the back by folks they help build and promote to some degree. As the community is divided it ceases to have any sense of homogeneity...this only pushes for more division and in the end what is left is fractured beyond recognition. I miss the days when there was one place to go in an area, so that when you opted to go out you knew everyone else who was like minded and looking to go out would be at that club that night. It made it much easier to find people.
LIFEICING:
The folks that were on HBO Real Sex shows were a very "self selecting" group. This scene has always had all types. It was just that most people don't opt to out themselves on television, well until our society became all about incessant narcissism and self promotion...see my former high school classmate Bethany Frankel as lead example (who was smoking hot in high school). When I saw swingers on TV 15 years ago they tended to be true believers almost proselytizing and new age in their presentation and embracing of hedonism. Now I see swingers on TV and they tend to fall into three camps: self promoting for a club, site or event they run, narcissists run wild who just crave attention and a few leftover true believers...but they rarely make as good entertainment.
I will strongly agree that the concept of an open relationship, which is very different than swinging, is much more socially acceptable today. We know plenty of 20something couples that have some version of that, but few would take it the next step to swinging. They tend to play with one person at a time in private. It is more an acknowledgement that monogamy may not be a good system for them and often the other relationships are about much more than just recreational sex, including strong emotional connections that many swingers try to avoid. I happen to be in an open relationship and a swinger, the two are wildly different beasts. While increasing acceptance and tolerance is great, much like increasing acceptance and tolerance of the homosexual community it does not imply that people will give it a try. Sometimes people in this scene can feel like everyone outside this scene is just a drink or wild night away from being a swinger, they aren't.
Lastly, that word Classy is out there again. I am not sure exactly what it means. Does it mean the beds now have higher thread counts on the sheets? Is it about embracing a hyper selective approach that often gets in the way of actually playing? Is it about the venues, table service, VIP areas and velvet ropes? Is it about the advance degrees of the people participating? Is it about how wealthy someone is? There have always been people at every level of society and intellect in this scene...and it has also had a bit of a "dirty" air about it because of how swinging is perceived by the vast majority of society (sex is still scene as dirty by many). It is funny that classy and newbie 20somethigns get paired together in your post...as class often has a connotation that is related to money and presentation. Well, most 20somethings aren't rolling in money, they are rolling in debt. Most people in their twenties, including most of everyone reading this, were still figuring out who they were at that age too. Classy seems about putting on airs, about looking down on others, about distancing from the base, animalistic, hedonistic sex that is swinging. It is dressing it up to make it more palatable to a larger group and in doing so often missing the point. There have always been and always will be people who are "over the top" in style of dress or conduct given this is a subset of society...but there have always been plenty of people who could enjoy/appreciate a 1990 Brunello and dive into a pile of bodies in a mattressed play space. It isn't getting classier, because that word like "Lifestyle" is meaningless.
Richard
PS: Just to be clear, I am not complaining that it is hard to find playmates or anything of the like. I play as much or more as any point during our 20+ years at this. In fact I am the one always pointing out it is easy to find four way connections for play.



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