It seems like the first etiquette rule you learn in the lifestyle is ‘ask before you touch.’ Seems simple enough. But we find it’s more complicated in real life.
If you’re the one who wants to touch, it’s awkward to ask ‘can I touch your (insert body part here)’. But we think it’s equally awkward to be asked. It puts the person who's asked in the really uncomfortable position of having to say no if they're not into it. And if you say yes to touching one part, does that mean an all-access pass?
Our experience has been that unspoken signals work much better for us. A really flirty look, or a light touch on the arm or back. If the person pulls away, you have your answer. If they respond, game on!
Maybe ‘ask before you touch’ is better for group play situations where there are a lot of bodies in a room? Or maybe that rule is designed for newbies who would think it's OK just to jump in and start grabbin'? Would love to get thoughts on this.