Dear Lounge Advice, We have been in the lifestyle for a little over 2 years with a several experiences, but only 2 full swap. I love seeing my boyfriend having fun at parties, meeting new couples and enjoying watching me get dressed up and hit on girls. Unfortunately, I am into full swapping with him, but when I see him with another girl, such as kissing, caressing, or having sex, I get jealous and once it broke up a relationship with a couple since I couldn't get over it. Maybe I need to feel that the girl is more into me than into him and I'll feel more comfortable, but I can't get over my fear of freaking out (it was after the encounter) after another experience. Help! I love the lifestyle and some of the experiences have been awesome, but I'm scared to do more since I fear I'll freak out again. Sincerely, (Anonymous)

Dear (Anonymous), Do you trust him? If so, there is no need to feel insecure. Just let him enjoy himself. After all, who is he going home with? YOU, silly! If you're truly afraid of reliving your emotions, perhaps you two should redefine you boundaries in this lifestyle. If this is something you truly cannot handle, it should not be happening at all. You may just need more time to get comfortable with the idea of him being with another woman. Perhaps girl-girl should be the limit for now. Then you can venture back into things. It's great that you're seeking advice on this. It indicates that you're aware of the problem and willing to fix it. Some people in your situation refuse to acknowledge this problem, and it leads to disaster.