Dear Lounge Advice, I am a single male who recently joined the LL website hoping to be introduced to some active local women in the lifestyle. After spending coutless hours on the website trying to contact single females or those listed as having Hall Pass" status I am finding it difficult to connect with some of these ladies. I also noticed that the site is geared towards those who are already experienced and "certified" as active lifestyle members which makes it more diffuclt for me to find my first encounter with some of the more experienced members on the site. Seems like I am stuck in a "Catch 22" situation. Do you have any advice? Thank you. J Sincerely, (Anonymous)

Dear (Anonymous), Hi there I would suggest meeting up with some couples so that you could get the "real seal," I do know that many are reluctant to reach out to someone that is not "certified." Also, when you meet up with couples it is also a great way to be introduced to all the unicorns. Never stop trying...check out the forums and blogs as well ;) Hope this helps. Good Luck and Stay Sexy!